"What Is Coaching?"
The Power of a partnership
Having a coach in your life is a partnership. Your goals are my goals and I’ll walk with you step-by-step, hip-to-hip down the path of change, transformation and creating new ventures. It’s an experience filled with discovery, curiosity, surprise, adventure, fun and challenge.
Powerful coaching takes on doing and being: we look in the direction of who you need to be in order to do whatever it is you stay up dreaming about at night.
Imagine that you're already perfect
What if being human is a naturally thriving condition, rather than a faulty one? Let's start there.
You have the wisdom, the knowledge, the intuition—an inner GP—that will lead you in the right direction if you get still and quiet enough to listen.
What gets in our way is all that thinking we do as humans. It’s easy to get lost in our heads and start believing the thoughts that hold us back, thoughts to the tune of “Who do you think you’re kidding”; “It’s too hard”; “I’m scared”, “I don’t know where to start.”
You don't have to struggle and work yourself into an existential lather to make a change or transform your life. Instead, we’ll focus on time and attention. Intention. Connections, systems, focus, commitment. Whatever you want, whoever you want to be, however you want to feel can happen starting today.
We will look at the thinking that is keeping you from what you want. It's not your job or the overbearing boss, you parents, the uneven leg length, a creative block, world affairs, or a company in turmoil that's responsible for your less-than-ideal life.
As your coach, I am with you on your path. When the whispers of doubt kick up; when the siren songs of "I can't" or "who do you think you're kidding?" or "it's too hard" cycle on to replay, I am there to remind you that these thoughts aren't the truth and to keep going, keep GOING, KEEP GOING! Our survival brain/ego is so good at luring us off the path, we need a system to remind us to drop the thought storms and keep playing the big game.
Coaching philosophy and grounding
Your natural state is one of well-being. You’re not here to suffer. Look at babies and toddlers, their natural inclination is toward joy--and bouncing back from distress pretty quickly. Have you ever seen a two-year-old hold a grudge? This is your natural state as well.
Circumstances are neutral. Events, the news--it's all information; just data. It's the way you think about each piece of data that creates a feeling and experience. Sometimes it really seems like the person, place or thing is causing you pain. It’s not—it’s your thinking about the person, place or thing. And that’s good news.
Thought creates your experience. Humans are thinking machines, kicking up 70,000 thoughts a day. Aren't we incredible?? Your thinking is like weather passing by. It's transient and part of a larger weather system. You don't have to hang a story on any particular thought. Sit back and watch it go by.
Your past doesn't define your present. Or future. Every moment of every day you can be whoever and however you want to be. The past is a memory--powerful, seemingly real--but you can step out of it any time you want.
We're all tapped into a wiser intelligence. Sometimes we forget. You're tapped into an intelligence system that brings you flashes of insight, creative bursts, gut instincts, the right answers, warm human connections, moments of awe. What if you made this your default setting, rather than a once-in-a-blue-moon occurrence?
Our system is designed to heal and repair--not just from physical injury, but emotional ass-kickings as well. We have an amazing human repair system—a natural intelligence always working in our favor. If we give it a chance.
A feeling is not the truth--it's just your thinking. You might feel like the last five years of your life were disappointing; you might feel like the company doesn't respect you; you might feel emptied of all creative inspiration--but it’s just a feeling. NOT the truth. You don’t have to let a feeling direct you. A feeling is a sign, notifying you of your thinking.
You are creative. Being “creative” isn't about standing with an easel in the French countryside. Creativity is expansive! We are creative in how we work a complex spreadsheet; break a family pattern to make a better life for ourselves; start a business; build relationships and community; create a laugh among friends, you name it. Creative expression is the engine and pixie dust of thsi game of life. And being creative also helps move roadblocks so you can get to where you want to go, being the person you want to be.
Your work is so much more than just a job. Every thing you do, every day, no matter how big or small is part of your life's work (or play if you prefer). Imagine if you looked at your work as a playfield of personal discovery. A lab for personal development. A sandbox of play and creativity. The human zoo. The secret is, it's up to YOU to bring purpose and fulfillment to your work--not the other way around.
You Can Do It. This is a bedrock of the coaching partnership. I will believe in you even when you’re not so sure—because sometimes that’s what we all need. You don't have to go it alone. There's a village of people eager to support your rise to greatness, too.
Curious? Something on your mind? Let’s talk. I offer discovery conversations, no obligation, no cost. Let’s see if you can see something new for yourself!