Who Should You Listen To?

<em>Ultimate advice-giver, Dad, gets some back from his granddaughter, on how to ride a kids' bike.</em> When you start something new, like a business or you have an idea for one, who do you listen to in collecting constructive feedback?

Because we can't just go out there and take the world by storm without testing it out and putting our idea out to the Proper Critical Feedback. So goes the local wisdom. And a lot of it makes sense. Still.

When is feedback too much AND  who and what do you listen to?

First off, see how your heart responds to the feedback. Follow the feedback and suggestions that resonate with you at a deep and immediate level. Someone may not get the thrust and focus of your idea in the first place, or may be projecting how he/she would do it and that may not jive with you. So screw 'em!

But here's something I've noticed: There is sometimes a piece of information that hits me strangely. It doesn't feel good, it doesn't feel horrible, it raises my curiosity and even suspicion. This often turns out to be a golden nugget of some kind of valuable information, even if I have to crack it in half and splice it with something else.

And know that the other advice that falls flat or you shake your head at vehemently and yet wonder hmm, hmm, hmmm... this piece may make sense at a later date and that's okay too. You can implement any or none of it how you choose to.

I think there is a combination platter of how new Ideas and Things come into the world: Idea incubates and then you bring it out to the world for feedback, a little trial and error (free classes or services or dress rehearsals with a safe collection of friends or colleagues). Think of a soft store opening, or going Beta.

And then it may be time to go back into incubation for refinement of your idea. Or need some time alone to think things through for the next move. A therapist once told me, New relationships need a lot of privacy in the beginning. Well maybe new ideas and biz creations and artistic creations do too.

Here is some great advice from Seth Godin about Critics That Matter. He compares one critic who makes a difference to  one who doesn't.

Maybe the budding entrepreneurs among us can keep this in mind while pushing forward on the path.

And remember: Some people like to give critical feedback for sport. Also, it's easier to articulate criticism than it is to give positive feedback; and criticism often makes people feel smart. And, helpful. Ha. Just keep this in mind. Soon enough you'll find your Right Trusted Advisors.

Now get out there and have fun creating your New Thing.